你期望的人生没有那么,你所期望的人生没有那

究竟什么样的人生,才是无悔的人生?

I‘ve been thinking for a long time about what we do in our life。。。

By Sam Altman
http://blog.samaltman.com/

你考虑过这个问题吗?

我一直在进行关于人生的思考。

I turned 30 last week and a friend asked me if I'd figured out any life advice in the past decade worth passing on. I'm somewhat hesitant to publish this because I think these lists usually seem hollow, but here is a cleaned up version of my answer:

这位外国插画师的漫画,

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  1. Never put your family, friends, or significant other low on your priority list. Prefer a handful of truly close friends to a hundred acquaintances. Don’t lose touch with old friends. Occasionally stay up until the sun rises talking to people. Have parties.
  2. Life is not a dress rehearsal—this is probably it. Make it count. Time is extremely limited and goes by fast. Do what makes you happy and fulfilled—few people get remembered hundreds of years after they die anyway. Don’t do stuff that doesn’t make you happy (this happens most often when other people want you to do something). Don’t spend time trying to maintain relationships with people you don’t like, and cut negative people out of your life. Negativity is really bad. Don’t let yourself make excuses for not doing the things you want to do.
  3. How to succeed: pick the right thing to do (this is critical and usually ignored), focus, believe in yourself (especially when others tell you it’s not going to work), develop personal connections with people that will help you, learn to identify talented people, and work hard. It’s hard to identify what to work on because original thought is hard.
  4. On work: it’s difficult to do a great job on work you don’t care about. And it’s hard to be totally happy/fulfilled in life if you don’t like what you do for your work. Work very hard—a surprising number of people will be offended that you choose to work hard—but not so hard that the rest of your life passes you by. Aim to be the best in the world at whatever you do professionally. Even if you miss, you’ll probably end up in a pretty good place. Figure out your own productivity system—don’t waste time being unorganized, working at suboptimal times, etc. Don’t be afraid to take some career risks, especially early on. Most people pick their career fairly randomly—really think hard about what you like, what fields are going to be successful, and try to talk to people in those fields.
  5. On money: Whether or not money can buy happiness, it can buy freedom, and that’s a big deal. Also, lack of money is very stressful. In almost all ways, having enough money so that you don’t stress about paying rent does more to change your wellbeing than having enough money to buy your own jet. Making money is often more fun than spending it, though I personally have never regretted money I’ve spent on friends, new experiences, saving time, travel, and causes I believe in.
  6. Talk to people more. Read more long content and less tweets. Watch less TV. Spend less time on the Internet.
  7. Don’t waste time. Most people waste most of their time, especially in business.
  8. Don’t let yourself get pushed around. As Paul Graham once said to me, “People can become formidable, but it’s hard to predict who”. (There is a big difference between confident and arrogant. Aim for the former, obviously.)
  9. Have clear goals for yourself every day, every year, and every decade.
  10. However, as valuable as planning is, if a great opportunity comes along you should take it. Don’t be afraid to do something slightly reckless. One of the benefits of working hard is that good opportunities will come along, but it’s still up to you to jump on them when they do.
  11. Go out of your way to be around smart, interesting, ambitious people. Work for them and hire them (in fact, one of the most satisfying parts of work is forging deep relationships with really good people). Try to spend time with people who are either among the best in the world at what they do or extremely promising but totally unknown. It really is true that you become an average of the people you spend the most time with.
  12. Minimize your own cognitive load from distracting things that don’t really matter. It’s hard to overstate how important this is, and how bad most people are at it. Get rid of distractions in your life. Develop very strong ways to avoid letting crap you don’t like doing pile up and take your mental cycles, especially in your work life.
  13. Keep your personal burn rate low. This alone will give you a lot of opportunities in life.
  14. Summers are the best.
  15. Don’t worry so much. Things in life are rarely as risky as they seem. Most people are too risk-averse, and so most advice is biased too much towards conservative paths.
  16. Ask for what you want.
  17. If you think you’re going to regret not doing something, you should probably do it. Regret is the worst, and most people regret far more things they didn’t do than things they did do. When in doubt, kiss the boy/girl.
  18. Exercise. Eat well. Sleep. Get out into nature with some regularity.
  19. Go out of your way to help people. Few things in life are as satisfying. Be nice to strangers. Be nice even when it doesn’t matter.
  20. Youth is a really great thing. Don’t waste it. In fact, in your 20s, I think it’s ok to take a “Give me financial discipline, but not just yet” attitude. All the money in the world will never get back time that passed you by.
  21. Tell your parents you love them more often. Go home and visit as often as you can.
  22. This too shall pass.
  23. Learn voraciously.
  24. Do new things often. This seems to be really important. Not only does doing new things seem to slow down the perception of time, increase happiness, and keep life interesting, but it seems to prevent people from calcifying in the ways that they think. Aim to do something big, new, and risky every year in your personal and professional life.
  25. Remember how intensely you loved your boyfriend/girlfriend when you were a teenager? Love him/her that intensely now. Remember how excited and happy you got about stuff as a kid? Get that excited and happy now.
  26. Don’t screw people and don’t burn bridges. Pick your battles carefully.
  27. Forgive people.
  28. Don’t chase status. Status without substance doesn’t work for long and is unfulfilling.
  29. Most things are ok in moderation. Almost nothing is ok in extreme amounts.
  30. Existential angst is part of life. It is particularly noticeable around major life events or just after major career milestones. It seems to particularly affect smart, ambitious people. I think one of the reasons some people work so hard is so they don’t have to spend too much time thinking about this. Nothing is wrong with you for feeling this way; you are not alone.
  31. Be grateful and keep problems in perspective. Don’t complain too much. Don’t hate other people’s success (but remember that some people will hate your success, and you have to learn to ignore it).
  32. Be a doer, not a talker.
  33. Given enough time, it is possible to adjust to almost anything, good or bad. Humans are remarkable at this.
  34. Think for a few seconds before you act. Think for a few minutes if you’re angry.
  35. Don’t judge other people too quickly. You never know their whole story and why they did or didn’t do something. Be empathetic.
  36. The days are long but the decades are short.

也许会对你有所启发…

We start by being taught in school how to become good citizens。

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我们接受的教育,一直要求我们做个好人、好人。

I‘ve been thinking for a long time about what we do in our life。。。

我一直在进行关于人生的思考。

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We spend a great part of our childhood studying。

We start by being taught in school how to become good citizens。

我们大把的美好童年时光,几乎都被用来学习。

我们接受的教育,一直要求我们做个好人、好人。

And finally we get the diploma that will ensure us “the position we deserve”。

We spend a great part of our childhood studying。

最后,终于得到了一个能给自己些许保障的——被称为“文凭”的东西。

我们大把的美好童年时光,几乎都被用来学习。

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And finally we get the diploma that will ensure us “the position we deserve”。

We participate to the increase of unemployment 。。。until we find a job

最后,终于得到了一个能给自己些许保障的——被称为“文凭”的东西。

我们一毕业就面临失业,找不到工作就不停的面试。

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Through hard tests we are accepted in the world of work。

We participate to the increase of unemployment 。。。until we find a job

我们一毕业就面临失业,找不到工作就不停的面试。

Through hard tests we are accepted in the world of work。

终于过五关斩六将,我们得到了份工作。

终于过五关斩六将,我们得到了份工作。

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We perform a good professional career filled with activity and efforts…a lot, a lot of efforts 。。。till we fall down exhausted。。。?

在我们的职业生涯中,为了有好的表现,花费了太多太多的精力和努力,直到我们精疲力尽。。。?

But we are great professionals with our valuable market share。

但我们总是坚信,自己的价值能在这个社会,发出闪闪光芒。

We perform a good professional career filled with activity and efforts…a lot, a lot of efforts 。。。till we fall down exhausted。。。

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在我们的职业生涯中,为了有好的表现,花费了太多太多的精力和努力,直到我们精疲力尽。。。

Time keeps on passing, and。。。 。。。we select new targets。

时光飞快,我们慢慢成长。。。。。然后有了新的目标。

We meet the sweetheart of our life。。。 。。。and promise a never-ending love。

当我们终于遇到生命中的那个TA,我们毫不犹豫的许下了不朽的誓言。

必威 ,Passionate hugs, and here comes a baby into our home。

热恋过后,我们迎来了新的家庭成员。

Damned night couldn’t close my eyes!

可是不知为何,这个生活的变动,却让我彻夜难眠。

But we are great professionals with our valuable market share。

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但我们总是坚信,自己的价值能在这个社会,发出闪闪光芒。

We keep on advancing in the society trying to make the best of our time。

我们还在继续向上爬啊爬,总希望爬得越高越好。

We are the stars wherever we go and we are finally RICH!

终于有一天,自己走到哪儿就成了哪儿的焦点----没错,我们有钱了。

But we need some time more to triumph completely。

当然,真正的成功也许尚未到来,我们还得不断努力。

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Time keeps on passing, and。。。 。。。we select new targets。

Gosh! One day they tell they can do without you。

乐极生悲的事情时有发生,当有一天他们不打算继续带你玩儿了。

By this time, you think getting crazy, you feel destroyed, you feel you lost means of communication。

这时,你感觉五雷轰顶,挫败感让你丧失了一切与他人沟通的能力和心情。

You realize you are cut off from everything。

你觉得自己被周围的一切孤立了。

Now time does not pass any longer, still you are loosing it。

你无可奈何,唯有沉沦中混沌度日。

时光飞快,我们慢慢成长。。。。。然后有了新的目标。

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We meet the sweetheart of our life。。。 。。。and promise a never-ending love。

You realize you’ve been living in the fog in search of a silly target。

当你云里雾里活着的时候,有一天,你突然发现自己追求的东西,是多么的弱智。

You become a walking ghost trying to escape your enemies。

你觉得自己像个行尸走肉,小心的避开敌人,却也不知道自己想要什么。

You are the only one longing for the hours to pass till your time comes。

常常自顾自的琢磨着,时间啊,你快跑吧!赶紧让我结束这样的一生吧!

当我们终于遇到生命中的那个TA,我们毫不犹豫的许下了不朽的誓言。

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Passionate hugs, and here comes a baby into our home。

Upon this evaluation, an idea came to my mind on how to improve my life。

经过反复思量,我突然想到了一个好主意!如果重新设定我的人生,那将会是什么样子呢?

热恋过后,我们迎来了新的家庭成员。

必威 15I‘ll take things easy。我将会简单行事。

Damned night couldn’t close my eyes!

I‘ll?try?to?open my heart to my love。

我将会打开心扉,毫无保留的去爱。

I‘ll?listen more to the ones surrounding me。

我将会学着去倾听身边的、大家的想法。

I‘ll?save more time to spend it with my friends。

我会花更多的时间和朋友们在一起。

I‘ll?try to travel more。

我要去更多的地方旅行,看更多的风景。

No, karaoke?I‘ll?never do, but I believe?I‘ll?sing more。

不,我将拒绝去唱卡拉ok,但我会在想唱的时候随时歌唱。

可是不知为何,这个生活的变动,却让我彻夜难眠。

必威 16I‘ll?go more times to the seaside。我要去海边多走走看看!

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I‘llmake my best to cook tasty food。

我要学着做一些好吃的美食。

I‘lljoin my friends’ warmth。A bit loves more。

我要学着去感受友情的温度,学着爱,更爱一点。

I‘llbe happier to get news from my friends。。。 and achieve together common objectives。

要是听到了朋友们的好消息,我会打心眼里感到高兴。

We keep on advancing in the society trying to make the best of our time。

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我们还在继续向上爬啊爬,总希望爬得越高越好。

I can’t be sure, but I believe it worth’s trying。

我会去大胆尝试,做更多看上去或许不靠谱的事情。

Such as: “Well, say what you want, but I am a nice guy!”

比如。。。。。“嘿,你觉得我怎么样?我其实人还不错的!”这种告白。

I‘llco-operate clean the world from nasty people。

我会学着更有社会责任感。

No harm from a glass more。?

再也不让酒精控制我的大脑。

And I hope they won’t stop me when my time comes。

嗯,如果我的大限将至,也希望他们可以顺其自然,尊重我的意愿。。。。

We are the stars wherever we go and we are finally RICH!

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终于有一天,自己走到哪儿就成了哪儿的焦点----没错,我们有钱了。

I do not know whether it is good for everybody, but I’m sure that at least I will have had a wonderful time… which by the way is what counts more。

其实我知道,也许,这不是适合所有人思考问题的方式。但至少我觉得,这样会使我更加幸福。这才是最重要的。

DON’T YOU THINK SO?

你不觉得吗?

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But we need some time more to triumph completely。

当然,真正的成功也许尚未到来,我们还得不断努力。

必威 20

Gosh! One day they tell they can do without you。

乐极生悲的事情时有发生,当有一天他们不打算继续带你玩儿了。

By this time, you think getting crazy, you feel destroyed, you feel you lost means of communication。

这时,你感觉五雷轰顶,挫败感让你丧失了一切与他人沟通的能力和心情。

You realize you are cut off from everything。

你觉得自己被周围的一切孤立了。

Now time does not pass any longer, still you are loosing it。

你无可奈何,唯有沉沦中混沌度日。

必威 21

You realize you’ve been living in the fog in search of a silly target。

当你云里雾里活着的时候,有一天,你突然发现自己追求的东西,是多么的弱智。

You become a walking ghost trying to escape your enemies。

你觉得自己像个行尸走肉,小心的避开敌人,却也不知道自己想要什么。

You are the only one longing for the hours to pass till your time comes。

常常自顾自的琢磨着,时间啊,你快跑吧!赶紧让我结束这样的一生吧!

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Upon this evaluation, an idea came to my mind on how to improve my life。

经过反复思量,我突然想到了一个好主意!如果重新设定我的人生,那将会是什么样子呢?

必威 23

I‘ll take things easy。

我将会简单行事。

I‘ll try to open my heart to my love。

我将会打开心扉,毫无保留的去爱。

I‘ll listen more to the ones surrounding me。

我将会学着去倾听身边的、大家的想法。

I‘ll save more time to spend it with my friends。

我会花更多的时间和朋友们在一起。

I‘ll try to travel more。

我要去更多的地方旅行,看更多的风景。

No, karaoke I‘ll never do, but I believe I’ll sing more。

不,我将拒绝去唱卡拉ok,但我会在想唱的时候随时歌唱。

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I‘ll go more times to the seaside。

我要去海边多走走看看!

I‘ll make my best to cook tasty food。

我要学着做一些好吃的美食。

I‘ll join my friends’ warmth。 A bit loves more。

我要学着去感受友情的温度,学着爱,更爱一点。

I‘ll be happier to get news from my friends。。。 and achieve together common objectives。

要是听到了朋友们的好消息,我会打心眼里感到高兴。

必威 25

I can’t be sure, but I believe it worth’s trying。

我会去大胆尝试,做更多看上去或许不靠谱的事情。

Such as: “Well, say what you want, but I am a nice guy!”

比如。。。。。“嘿,你觉得我怎么样?我其实人还不错的!”这种告白。

I‘ll co-operate clean the world from nasty people。

我会学着更有社会责任感。

No harm from a glass more。

再也不让酒精控制我的大脑。

And I hope they won’t stop me when my time comes。

嗯,如果我的大限将至,也希望他们可以顺其自然,尊重我的意愿。。。。

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I do not know whether it is good for everybody, but I’m sure that at least I will have had a wonderful time… which by the way is what counts more。

其实我知道,也许,这不是适合所有人思考问题的方式。但至少我觉得,这样会使我更加幸福。这才是最重要的。

DON‘T YOU THINK SO?

你不觉得吗?

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